“Even in the middle of a hurricane,
the bottom of the sea is calm.
As the storm rages and the winds howl,
the deep waters sway in gentle rhythm,
a light movement of fish and plant life.
Below there is no storm.”
Belief, Feeling, Thought, and Emotion
There is a difference between emotions, feelings and beliefs. Perhaps this will help you to understand the defining features of each.
- Beliefs are an acceptance of truth without any proof. It is your value system usually obtained by early experiences. Beliefs are thoughts you just keep thinking over and over again. They may rational and based in fact. They can also be irrational and based on something your parents, their parents and their parents believed.
- Feelings are how you feel in your physical body. It is much like an instinctive awareness. I put intuition in this category. Feelings are often felt in and around the heart and stomach. Feelings come and go. When you are feeling afraid you may think it will last forever. It won’t. Just like everything in life, there is an ebb and flow.
- Thoughts are ideas, plans, reasoning power and mindless chatter. Thoughts by themselves have no power until we incorporate action. You can change the belief by choosing to think another way.
- Emotions are a strong surge of feelings based on thoughts and beliefs that cause us to outwardly express those feelings, thoughts and beliefs. You are happy with a simpler lifestyle.
This may be confusing because there is a thin line between feelings and emotions. I explain it to workshop participants by using the illustration of anger. You may have grown up with the belief that it is wrong to interrupt someone when they are speaking.
When you are on the phone and you keep getting interrupted, you may be irritated. If you become very angry at your child or spouse, but hold it inside, then it is a feeling. However, if you became angry and let yourself explode, either verbally or physically, the feeling of anger would then be manifesting itself as an emotion.
In other words, the belief that it is wrong to interrupt causes the thought that you deserve respect when you are on the phone, which is manifested in your hurt feelings, which are expressed by your emotional reaction.
Words Reflecting “Upset” Feelings
We all need to understand that there are varying degrees of upset feelings that can be expressed in ways that make communication easier. It is empowering to be able to name your feelings. When you can accurately describe how you feel, then others can assist you in finding solutions.
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